On trust, and grief
“…Since then, I’ve had adults, mostly survivors, tell me I’m one of the only people who coregulates them, one of the only people they trust, that I’m the embodiment of a safe person. And I’m trying to understand it.
What leads us to survive loss and then go on to impact others this way?”
On post-separation abuse: isolation
It's so common to hear stories about abusive relationships, where as the relationship continued, the victim's world grew smaller and smaller. We've come to recognize isolation as a debilitating coercive control tactic.
What we're not talking about as much, are the stories of isolation that many are faced with after leaving.
There are so many stories of women leaving behind family friends from the marriage or partnership, because upon leaving, it becomes unclear who can be trusted and who cannot.